This article says it so well: When a child is punished, they don’t learn self-discipline. The thrust of raising a child using Positive Discipline, is to get the child to learn to respond to situations using their internal locus of control. That’s a fancy way of saying, use self-control. In doing this, you are helping to develop a person of responsibility, a person with self-confidence and self-control. Why, you ask, go through all the work to develop a kid who is responsible, self-confident, and has self-control? Well, the alternative is a kid who grows up with low self-esteem, hasn’t developed things like delayed gratification, and is irresponsible. These kids can end up in trouble with the law, doing poorly in school and in life in general, may get hooked on mind altering substances, become a teen parent, and the like. Not every kid who is not raised with Positive Discipline will end up like these alternative kids. But you can bet that if a kid is raised with Positive Discipline, they are significantly less likely to become one of the alternative kids.