I was watching an Abraham-Hicks video the other morning, and got another perspective on what we call death. It’s amazing how buggered up we have gotten with this idea. We are taught that when we die, that’s it. The end. Life over. Well, perhaps it’s the end of our physical body; but the true essence of who we are is not our physical body. We do not end.
But then when you talk about death in the context of several popular religions, you are taught that if you live your life a certain way or follow a set of rules, when you die, you’ll go to heaven. You’ll have an everlasting life of joy and happiness. (FYI, that ‘s what alignment with yourself is). And if you don’t follow the rules, you will either end up in a place called hell, or purgatory. We are sure to teach ourselves that these other places are painful and horrible, and places that we absolutely don’t want to go. Fascinating how we have created these rules and places in an effort to control ourselves.
If we knew and understood this other perspective of life and death, we wouldn’t live in fear of not getting into heaven. In my opinion, a life lived in fear, is a life not worth living. (That’s a topic for another day). And we would all live lives striving to align ourselves to the true us: the us that is source energy– or God or spirit (in my vernacular). Many people strive to live a life that brings them closer to their real self. In doing so, they do better things for themselves and for others because it makes them feel better about themselves and their world.
But when a person who we dearly love dies, that good feeling we had when they were here with us, goes away for a while. As Abraham explains it, when someone we love dies, the truth is not that we miss the person. What is really happening, is that we miss the feeling of connection that was often provided by the person who is now gone. We miss connection with security, support, being loved, or other good feelings, that we would feel when we were with that person.
When you feel better, you are closer to your true self. With that person gone, you are reacting to the diminishment of who you truly are- as the further from your source energy and true self you get, the worse you feel. Our emotions are an accurate barometer of whether we are moving toward or away from alignment with our true selves. And alignment with our true selves, by definition, brings us joy.
When someone we love dies, many of us feel badly because we have been trained, conditioned, taught, and brainwashed into believing that death is the end (unless you follow the rules to get into heaven). In fact, when we die, we are instantaneously reunited 100% with our source energy and brought fully into alignment with our true selves. And as source energy, we are now everywhere. In this state, we feel no negative emotions.
Knowing that a person you love has just emerged into the full alignment of who they are, and that they are now part of the source energy all around, should be cause for celebration. If only our society would get it, and teach it the way it really is. In bringing this perspective of death into more people’s consciousness, it is my goal to shorten the duration of everyone’s grief process. Yes, of course, we grieve our loved ones. But in understanding the mechanics of what’s actually going on, it is my hope that those who are grieving will begin to feel a little better a little faster, and that their shifting to moving toward alignment (instead of away from it) is able to happen more easily. How do you know if you’re moving toward alignment with your true self? You feel better; plain and simple.
Having written all this, I have recently found out that my father’s health is not good, and I will probably have to put all this to the test before I’d like to.
Please take eight minutes to watch the video on this page (click on the box with the picture). It is from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks, and is called, From Grief to Joy: Moving Up The Emotional Scale.
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I absolutely agree. Death is so taboo in our society. For years after my dad died, I was so mired down in my own grief, it took me awhile to think about him and where he was now and what he went through in dying and moving on to the other side. Of course we are only human and our emotions tend to take over. As much as you believe they are now with the Source or whatever you want to label God….I missed him so much and was always thinking about what he didn’t get to see (my wedding, my college graduation, my kids) but really it’s what I didn’t get to experience, my sense of loss that is the true pain to come to grips with and overcome. It took me a long long time to see my dad’s death in a positive light. It helps that I know for sure death isn’t “the end” of anything but a beginning or reawakening of sorts. But sometimes my sense of being cheated out of his presense takes over and that is okay for me to feel that pain as long as I don’t dwell on it too much. I am sorry about your dad being ill. I wish you peace and prayers during this time.
Thank you for your comment. I am sorry that you feel cheated out of your Dad’s presence during the special times of your life. I have to admit that I feel amazingly lucky to have had my Dad around to see me graduate, get married, have a child, and develop as an adult. These have all happened since he was diagnosed with cancer over 20 years ago. Although, with what I know now, I truly believe that he’ll still see my accomplishments in the coming years, when he’s gone. My heart goes out to you.
Thanks for posting a link to the video. It is moments like these where I wish a real dialogue could take place via the blogosphere. I love talking about death and the thoughts regarding death. I’m not sure I agree 100% with the message conveyed in the video. While I do see how one misses the connection, I think the connection is part of the person who is missing. I can find connections elsewhere in others – but there is no connection like the connection of a parent. With death – you lose the ability for true dialogue – true interactions – feedback, etc. I mourn that loss, even as I find connections, dialogue, true interactions and feedback with others.
I am a person of faith, but I still have questions on what happens with death. I find it interesting that those having no belief in God, find it easy to accept an energy and completion in the realm of death. Bottom line – in everything it takes faith. Faith that the energy exists in a way where we are still ‘aware’, faith that death opens a new door to a heaven or hell.
Energy cannot be created or destroyed. That is proven. However, proof that the energy that remains after death is cognizance remains unproven. Faith is required for either belief.
Lenore, I guess what I value from things like the video, is the new perspective. However, when it comes to pain- pain is pain. And yes, we have an especially deep (and sometimes tangled) relationship with our parents (and children). I will miss our conversations, our jokes, and the free advice. And I will wallow in the photos, videos, and memories.
As for whether the energy that remains after death remains cognizant, I can only go from experiences of those who have experienced death. I have a friend who died twice and blows my mind with the knowledge she has. And when a grandmother that I never knew channeled advice through a medium I know, about helping my son, it let me know that she is very aware of what is going on in my life. (That shocked the heck out of me!)
I agree that it takes faith. And one day (a long time from now), we will all know for sure.