Here I sit, hours before my son’s parent teacher conference. I have so many things I want to share with his teacher: how awesomely amazing my son is, how completely creative he is, how very compassionate and caring he is, and how he has so very much energy.
What I need to get her to understand is that she doesn’t need to use threats and punishment to get him to learn. In fact, he’s very sensitive; both to all of the energy in his classroom, and to the intention of the words that come out of his teacher’s mouth. He already tries his best, and spends most of his time in school worrying about incurring what he perceives as the wrath of his teacher. I know that she cares very much about her students’ performance, but the way her style of motivation comes across to my son is wrath.
When his motor is running slow, and he’s not able to pay attention well enough to keep up with what is being taught, my little man will shut down and space out. To bring him back to the class, all his teacher needs to do is give him a gentle squeeze on the shoulder, not bring the entire class’s attention to the fact that he’s drifted off, thus completely embarrassing and (in his words) humiliating him.
What I want to get across to his teacher is that there is nothing wrong with my son. His brain is wired and works differently than many others. And from what I’ve read in several books and many websites and blogs, the way his brain works is actually ahead of our time. He is the evolution of our species. (And I have been told this by more than a handful of very intuitive people).
Our school systems need to get on the ball and figure out how to teach these children, recognizing their gifts, not thinking of them as less than; because there are more and more of these kids coming into this world. And it’s very much on purpose.
Somehow, I will help my son’s teacher see, as I do, that my kid rocks!