So many people have the mindset of, “If I could just lose weight, then my life would be all sunshine and rainbows.” “If I could just lose weight, all of my problems would suddenly disappear and I’d feel wunderbar!”
Just take these pills: don’t change what you eat, and don’t exercise, and the weight will fall off! Or, eat these prepackaged meals for the rest of your life and you’ll be skinny! Count calories. Don’t count calories. Low fat. Low carb. The issue of weight loss is on every cover of every magazine you see at the grocery store checkout.
News flash! If you lose weight, you will be smaller and lighter, and might even feel better in your clothes, but you will still be the same person who needed that pint of Ben and Jerry’s the other night when you were watching TV. The things about your spouse that drive you nuts, will still drive you nuts.
And for those who have lost weight, only to gain it back every… single… time, the reason it keeps coming back is because there is a need for it to be there. You think, it will be different this time. This time I’m on a program. This time I’m all pumped up to go to the gym. This time I’m…
Maybe things have gotten so bad that you’re contemplating bariatric surgery of some sort. You’ve heard that the pharmaceutical industry has come out with a diet pill that really might work (and really might damage your body) and you’ll do anything do try to lose weight.
I’ll let you in on a little secret: as long as extra weight needs to be with you, it will stay with you. It always fulfills a need, serves a purpose. Sure, you can go on a diet and you will probably even lose weight, for a while. And you can even go to the extremes of cutting out most of your stomach and bypassing some of your intestines, to live a life of unpleasant and unwanted side effects, with the very real possibility if stretching out your stomach over time, regaining lost weight.
Until you heal the reason why you are overweight, you will be fighting losing weight or maintaining weight loss for the rest of your life. And 9.9 times out of 10, that reason is buried deep in your subconscious mind.
If the thought of stopping eating any category of food sends you into a spiral, there are subconscious beliefs affecting your eating. Can you give up candy, ice cream and chocolate for a few days, only to turn into Oscar the Grouch’s bitchy twin? Can you give it up for a few weeks, only to dive back into that pint of Ben and Jerry’s with a fervor? Does the thought of giving up pizza send you running for a slice? And you’ve been told over and over that you just need more willpower, more discipline, and be a more mindful eater?
I say bullshit! Willpower is a term used by people who don’t understand the mechanics of the subconscious mind and the power it has over you. However! Once, you have found a way to access that tricky little devil, you can do the miraculous. Well, it’s only miraculous because most people don’t understand how it works.
You will find that when you ferret out those pesky beliefs that have kept weight with you, and you are able to transmute, or heal, them, you will change. Your feelings about yourself and your life will change. Changing what you eat will become easy because you won’t be fighting yourself anymore. Weight will easily fall off.
The kicker will be to find a way to get down to the level where the trouble really is; your subconscious. There are a number of people out there who are gifted with clairvoyance, who can help in this endeavor. They have the ability to see beyond our physical world. Hypnosis is one of the most effective modalities that’s helped me. And working with a skilled hypnotherapist makes all of the difference. Some people have used a modality called Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) to facilitate healing. And there are consciousness technologies such as Matrix Energetics that can be effective as well.
The great thing about actually healing why you are overweight, is that you will heal issues that no doubt affect your life in other ways. Some of your problems will actually disappear because you will have dealt with them. Other problems will still be there until addressed, for sure. But as a person who has had a life of issues with food, these are things I have learned after a ton of trial and error.
This past spring, I had a major healing breakthrough and have been able to easily and dramatically change my eating habits. Since that time I definitely feel different inside (in a good way). However, with the advent of school starting up last month, and with my son, Little Man, having some big struggles over the past several weeks (around school), something in me has decided to act up in response to his difficulties.
This has shown up in my life as my snacking a little more than I would like, and not being as diligent with taking time to prepare the more balance meals I had been eating throughout the spring and summer. I’ve been feeling more discombobulated and ungrounded, and becoming easily overwhelmed and inactive. Seeing and knowing this, I will definitely be returning to do more work with my hypnotherapist in the next few months. Until then, I’m hanging in there, still very slowly dropping weight (70 lbs. to date), and trying to not become mired down in Little Man’s issues. (Yes, this is a big life lesson for me).