Christmas Cards

I just got my first Christmas card of the season. It’s that time again, and I’ve yet to put together our card for the year or even decide what it will be. Usually, our card is a collage of photos from the year, or one photo, often creatively made using Photoshop. Like the year I took a photo of a train ornament hanging on our Christmas tree, and digitally made Little Man the engineer in the cab. That was fun.

Putting together our Christmas card is usually something I enjoy, going through photos from the year, winding down memory lane. But because this past year has been one of the most challenging years in my adult life (and still is), I find myself in a bit of a quandary.

I don’t really feel like sending out a Christmas card this year. I’m not in the mood, not in the spirit, and am chronically exhausted, both mentally and physically. Just thinking about everything it takes to get our cards out, from creating them, to having them printed, driving to pick them up, addressing and stamping the envelopes, and taking them to the post office, leaves me almost wiped out.

So many Christmas cards show off a handsome family, and boast of the kids’ accomplishments. The card I got today included a letter filled with the year’s adventures and accomplishments, with my friend’s college aged son mulling over the possibility of going to law school like his mother.

Honestly, when I read about my friends’ kids going to college or graduating from college, getting married or having a baby, I’m jealous. And I know I shouldn’t be, because as much as I’m still in the trenches of the teen years and most of my peers started their families about ten years before me, I’m glad (most days) that I waited until I was ready. I also get jealous because my friends’ kids are able to go to school, whereas I had to pull my son out of school. Homeschooling a teenager who has learning issues, attention issues, and anxiety that is set off by academia, is not an easy road.

I’m definitely not writing a Christmas note or letter this year.

Perhaps this year’s card will be a few of Little Man’s aerial photos. He’s got some stunners.

Accompanied by a short and sweet sentiment.

Wishing you peace and prosperity in 2018.

About mariner2mother

I'm a mother of a creative 19 year old son, a former merchant ship's deck officer, and a wife. To feed my creative side I take photos. I am also Reiki attuned and am a student of Energy Healing, having used several healing modalities to work on myself and my family. My most recent adventure has me navigating a very challenging Kundalini Awakening.
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7 Responses to Christmas Cards

  1. candidkay says:

    Oh my goodness. It must be in the ether. I am usually a Christmas card fanatic and send mine out early every year. This year-there just isn’t any joy in it for me. I’m super busy and it feels like one more thing to do. And while I love to see the photos of my friends’ lovely families, it all feels a bit staged and posed this year.

    • Sorry you’re not feeling the joy either. I almost feel like skipping Christmas this year. Looking forward to feeling more upbeat at some point.

      • candidkay says:

        I’m sorry that you’re not feeling the joy. The odd part is, I am feeling the joy. I’m just not buying into all the things are culture tells us we have to do to make it Christmas. I hope the joy seeps in at some point this month for you.

  2. The B Side says:

    You are not obligated to send out cards. If you don’t feel like it, then don’t do it. 🙂 The older I get, the more comfortable I am with only dong the things I actually enjoy doing or want to do … and I don’t feel one bit guilty about it. Hey, if you end up catching the bug and decide later that you want to do something then you can send out Happy New Year cards. Take care of your own head and heart and body and soul my dear.

  3. emjayandthem says:

    I agree with the B Side. Don’t do it. I’m skipping it this year, too. It was fun last year, because of oldest boy’s wedding, we had a nice family picture, like an update – to send. This year has been a blur. And if I don’t have anything to say other than “Merry Christmas from _____” then I’m taking a pass.

    Instead I’m finding MY Christmas ~ delighting in the simple pleasure of the twinkly Christmas tree lights illuminating the living room, the peace I feel being able to have bills paid, $ for gifts and a bit to put away, too. The joy of card games and good foods with the kids, “knock knock” joke book reading with the grand kids, and being able to sleep in on vacation (I won’t, I’ll be up early, watching the snow fall, sipping coffee and reading blogs).

    Can’t put a price on it and it’s hard to translate to a card ~ I wish you peace, xo MJ

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