Why Do We Feel the Need to be Saved?

With Easter right around the corner, there are millions of people around the world who will be celebrating their belief that Jesus died to save them and to save mankind. To save their souls. And what’s wrong with that? Nothing, if it works for you. The institution of religion has done a great job teaching and indoctrinating millions that if you follow certain interpretations of teachings and follow the rules, and as someone I used to know put it, if you accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you’re all set and will go to heaven when you die. You won’t go to hell. As simple as that.

Where in the world did we ever get these ideas in the first place?

Well, much like so many other things that eventually become institutionalized, what once began as teachings brought here to help us live better lives, became corrupted by mankind’s human condition. I can’t speak directly to the historical events that shaped what today’s religions look like because I’m not well versed in history and especially not well versed in religious history and all of the changes made to religious texts over hundreds of years. But what I’m well versed in is the human condition. Very well versed through my own inner exploration and experiences.

Why do we even need to be saved? Where does this concept or belief come from in the first place?

I saw the germination of this belief during a hypnotic healing session, and understanding how it was created taught me we all have similar experiences, creating a similarly resonant belief. It’s part of the human condition, created when we’re very young.

When I was a little girl, I sometimes went to bed dreaming of being saved by a knight on a white horse riding in and carrying me away. I remember nights lying in bed, wanting nothing more than to be saved. Yet as an adult, I couldn’t remember why. I couldn’t remember what I wanted to be saved from, until I began using hypnotic regression as a healing tool.

I’d actually forgotten about these yearning desires I had as a young girl until I unexpectedly reconnected with her in the middle of a healing session.

As my hypnotherapist guided me, I was able to see through the eyes of my inner child and then help her see another perspective through my wise adult eyes.

Connecting with my inner child, I saw and felt the little girl in me. She was miserable, living with people who sometimes treated her very badly. Living with a mentally ill mother who attacked her when she acted independently and willfully. She was stuck in a moment in time that kept looping over and over. Still waiting for a knight on a white horse to ride in and save her. She felt so completely disempowered and miserable, feeling trapped, wanting to run away from it all. In fact, I’d tried to run away a few times, but didn’t get beyond our yard. All she wanted was for someone to save her from all this misery.

Bringing my wise adult perspective into the scene, the wise one was able to explain to the child that her mother was not well and wasn’t about to change. Making the choice to give away her power to her mother, to subjugate her will, made life less painful. The child finally understood that giving away some of her power, doing what her mother wanted instead of doing what she wanted, allowed her to survive because when life feels too painful, we die. Wow! What she did was amazing because it helped her survive. She was amazing!

And with a shift in perspective, my inner child instantly let go of her pain and became joyful. She was free from feelings of disempowerment, and free from the desire to be saved. At one point, my inner child perked up and said I’d gone back and saved her. Rescued her. She began to laugh because I’m not a knight on a white horse.

This dynamic of wanting what we want, when and how we want it is part of the maturation process that kicks in during our toddler years. The years of exerting free will in a new and bigger way as we learn how to control our surroundings. And when we learn through repeated experience that we can’t completely control our surroundings, we eventually give up some of our autonomy, our free will. It’s a brain thing. However, in the process beliefs of disempowerment become formed. Everyone who is human experiences this in their own way. You don’t have to have been raised in an abusive home for this to happen. It’s part of life and the creation of the human condition.

The desire to be saved, born of the belief we need to be saved, is hard wired into people as an experience of our toddler years. And all sorts of religions and beliefs, philosophies, have tapped into this.

If your religion has taught you that you need to do certain things or act a certain way in order to “be saved”, understand it was merely their way of getting you to act lovingly and not react out of fear. This is what Jesus taught. What living with Christ Consciousness is about. How to live from a place of love. The irony is, religious leaders, like many parents, have used fear and control as a tactic to steer behavior.

Walking a healing path is teaching me how to see life from the inside out. Deeply understanding the human condition through changing my inner world, where it’s created.

The truth is, when we die the only hell we might experience is one of our own making, and it’s temporary. And heaven is a state of mind that can be touched while we’re still here in human form.

About mariner2mother

I'm a mother of a creative 19 year old son, a former merchant ship's deck officer, and a wife. To feed my creative side I take photos. I am also Reiki attuned and am a student of Energy Healing, having used several healing modalities to work on myself and my family. My most recent adventure has me navigating a very challenging Kundalini Awakening.
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9 Responses to Why Do We Feel the Need to be Saved?

  1. MariaTeresa says:

    You summarized it all so beautifully my friend, seeing it all from the inside out 💛 Happy Easter and Spring my dear 😊💐 May we continue to experience the joys of healing and saving ourselves thus being our own heros 🙌

    • Thank you so much. Every time I’ve met my inner child and seen how and why her beliefs were created, I’m blown away by her resilience. And connecting with her, helping her shift perspective, watching her drop those beliefs so fast is a trip! Happy Easter and Spring to you as well. ❤

  2. Adrian says:

    Easter is always an interesting day for me, too. As a kid I loved the flowers at church and the music and the happy vibe everywhere. (The dads hosted a pancake breakfast!) I am happily far, far from Christianity now, but it also reminds me of my mom, who loved her church and its holidays and has been gone for 15 years. This statement of yours threw me however: “If your religion has taught you that you need to do certain things or act a certain way in order to “be saved”, understand it was merely their way of getting you to act lovingly and not react out of fear.” Not at all how I understand their objective. Many of the “right” actions aren’t about love (or lovinglyness) and actually seem to have the goal of putting the person into fear. But it was nice of you to give them the benefit of the doubt on this very flower-filled day 🙂

    Your point about that shift in toddlerhood, the very straightforward need for “society” to socialize young people, has always puzzled me, like, how do parents have a chance of getting that right? Not harming/stiffling their kid unnecessarily but getting the child able to function among others in a non-freaked out fashion. It’s not THE reason I don’t have kids (I’ve just never been able to fathom that lifestyle, I would break into many pieces), but it certainly bothered me as I grew into my 20s and noticed an assumption I would have them. How does a well intentioned parent not inadvertently wound their kids. The answer is that they don’t. Your single simple sentence helped me to see that in a new way.

    When I was sleep deprived in grad school I had a vision one miserable morning of talking with my six-year-old self, who I saw as dressed in a tattered nightgown, who said, “why did you leave me with her?” (Abandon her with my mother while I went on and led my adult life.) She said, if you say the word, I will walk all the way until I get to you. (850 miles.) I haven’t seen her in a long time. I should go see what she’s up to. Happy bright shining Sunday — thanks for the post and sorry to take up so much screen space!! Adrian

  3. I appreciate your thoughts and comment. I too always enjoyed Easter as a child with my new straw hat and white gloves. The Easter egg hunts and time with family we rarely saw. I’ve never been drawn a whole lot to religion in general (probably because of the mixed messages – love your neighbor, and if you don’t you’ll go to hell), but my healing journey and energy healing unexpectedly taught me a whole lot about Christ Consciousness – which is what Jesus embodied and taught through his stories. I need to write more about that. And taught me a whole lot about the human psyche.

  4. Eli Pacheco says:

    Jesus was a wonderful teacher whose words are in many religious texts. I took a course in college called Jesus, and wondered if that truly was the course name or the instructor! It turned out to be both, and I grew more spiritually, onto my current path, than I did in all my previous life.

    • Thanks for sharing – I love it. Jesus was indeed a wonderful teacher. I haven’t learned about his teachings through a church, but through some direct experiences with him and through my spiritual mentor. Not only was he a wonderful teacher, but a Master Healer. I’ve seen a glimpse of a lifetime I had when he lived, and I want to see more at some point.

  5. Jesus is love. Buddha is love. All the ascended masters are love. WE are love. My mom (as difficult as she was to deal with in life!) is love. I am love. Not only that–you are me and I am you. We are all One. All souls are forever connected! When I had my last regression when I channeled another council and they spoke through me, I felt this unconditional love for everyone for weeks afterward. I felt like I was buzzing with bliss and understanding. Incredible experience! Truly changed my life.

    Funny, I remember vividly when I was very young, I had a strong relationship with Jesus. I considered him a friend. I saw him in the trees and the clouds. I talked to him every night. It was just a natural thing for me. We each have such a personal relationship with spirituality and the meaning it gives us helps us to learn and grow in the end.

    • Why you little wizard (and I mean that in the very best possible way)! I love that you’ve had a strong relationship with Jesus. I need to do some more past life regression- I want to see more of the life I lived when Jesus was alive. I’ve only seen a snippet (a very, very powerful snippet) of it. My mentor who is hella psychic knows all about it but won’t tell me because she wants me to see it for myself – which I’m very ok with. I love your last regression experience! During a guided meditation I had an experience with some similar aspects, knowing we’re all love and all one. I connected with Source and it was amazing. I wish everyone had these experiences – the world would change overnight.

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