About five years ago, a campaign for everyone to, “Be Best!” was pushed onto my country and our children. Right off the bat, it was a little confusing. I put phrases like that in a category with, “Be nice!” It tries to say something important, but misses the mark. I’m pretty sure the gist of the campaign was for everyone to be THE BEST!
The thing is, only one person can be the best, which sets everyone up to compete to the death. And in truth, when there are problems to solve and things to work out, coming together in cooperation and sharing information is the best way to go. Telling people to go out there and be the best sounds innocuous enough until you’ve got ones who will go to any length to get there, everyone else be damned.
Another type of advice people seem to always fall for is self-help books that preach organizing your life in ten easy steps, or getting rich in ten easy steps, or finding your perfect partner in ten easy steps. Then they give the reader tasks to do. Usually people get as far as reading the book and taking the first few steps, only to lose enthusiasm by steps four, five, and six.
Don’t people love a recipe for success? A foolproof recipe to follow that will guarantee everything you’ve ever wanted just falling into your lap? So easy, right? Just like baking banana bread.
A few decades ago I was in the same boat, but for me it wasn’t about finding Mr. Right or making money, it was about being able to lose weight and keep it off. I read countless books, followed countless diets, and eventually realized diets didn’t work for me. At least not long-term.
So what do you do when all the advice in the world isn’t working? I finally tried something different.
Not really knowing anything about it, I took a leap of faith and went to a hypnotherapist to help me lose weight and keep it off. Twenty one years later, hypnotherapy and trying to solve the problem of my weight has opened doors I never knew existed. It’s walked me into a path I never saw coming and despite my current uncomfortable state of being, has been filled with more magic than I knew possible. A path of deep inner healing that’s given me quite a different view of myself and the world.
I’ve learned there are no quick fixes when you’re trying to address the wrong issue over and over. If you truly want to change something about your life that keeps popping up, start trying to figure out what’s preventing you from having what you want. I’ll give you a hint: it’s deep inside you waiting for you to find it and reconnect with it.